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Ever wonder why some people seem to be floating through life and others stumble?



I wonder this, and seek to find ways to float instead of stumble. Maybe you would like to join me in this search.

Seeking a closer relationship with God seems to allow my life to float along a little easier.







Phillipians 4:5-6 tells us to reveal our gentleness outwardly, that God is near and that we should not be anxious about anything, but through prayer and petition, we should thankfully approach the Lord with our concerns.

As a high energy person, my anxiety can run high. I am constantly seeking ways to leave my concerns at the foot of the cross.



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Saturday, March 31, 2012

Decisions

I was thinking today about decisions.  Especially how I make them and how others make them and just pondering whether my way of deciding is the status quo or if I think differently because of my background. 

When I was young, very young, I remember my mother explaining choices to me.  She would explain to me in a way I understood what options there were and what the outcome of those different options were.  As a young child, I can remember choosing not to act out on purpose, choosing to go for a ride instead of staying home with a babysitter, choosing to have a soda over milk or even whether to play with my dolls or ride my bike.  My mom and dad made it easy for my sister and I to learn how to choose.  It was easy.  As I grew, the choices became more significant, but the way in which I chose never changed.  One of the key pieces to choosing was asking the questions of myself that would allow for the best choice. 
1. Will this cause me harm?  Emotionally or physically - spiritually or financially...any harm.
2. Will this cause someone else harm?  (same parameters as above)
3. Is the outcome pleasing to God?  (in other words, would I be ashamed of my decision if I were standing in front of the Throne of Grace and being asked - "so exactly why did you decide to do this?")
If any of these questions do not pass the go test, then the answer to the decision is negative.  If not, then I usually employ the rest of the parameters...the feel good factor I call it  - if it is pleasing to God and it will not cause me or anyone else harm, then I should enjoy it and relish the fun involved in my choice. 

I think that in my marriage I take this same basic strategy in how I handle decisions - including when I ask for input and when I decide and share.  Many times, I will consult my husband, asking him what he thinks about a situation - prefacing the conversation with the caviat, "I would like your input on this, but I'm not ready to make a decision yet."  My husband likes to decide quickly, and I like to take my time deciding.  I think it is common in a marriage that one person finds the journey of choosing a joy and the other likes to decide and move quickly.  I like thinking through things. Taking my time for me is a pleasure, not a labor. 

The key in deciding and choosing within a marriage is communication.  I never TELL my husband what we are doing, I ask him what he would like to do - or I ask him what he thinks of my choice.  This doesn't mean I will change my choice, it just allows him to be part of my inner thoughts - close to my heart - as I walk through my life.  It brings us closer.  I am so grateful for my parents. 

They modeled for me the effortlessness of combined thinking.  They shared and cared for one another, modeling the way to include and allow without dictating and directing.  Even including the children in the budget process when we were young (I can remember talking about making choices about vacation when I was 8) allowed us to understand the importance of inclusive decision making in a family.

The Bible models this for us as well.  We see the early church coming together and deciding what was best not by dictating but by surveying the situation and then discussing, allowing for each to live out their strengths and employ the best of every gift given.  Jesus tells us to put others before ourselves - think of others as better than ourselves.  Decisions are extremely important - each one.  Every day we make choices that impact those around us.  Be careful how you choose.  Remember that one day each choice will be accounted for.  The Lord loves you.  Your life reflects your love of God.  The choices you make show who you are.  The choices you make reveal your character and your nature.  Choose wisely.

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